Venus View - On Men Giving Golf Advice

For those of you who are married or in a serious relationship, I do not need to explain that men love to give advice. It is a male thing and I am sorry to inform you that this is something that cannot be fixed, it is genetic. Believe me, if I could put an end to this behavior, I would sell the solution on QVC, make millions of dollars and be booked on Oprah tomorrow!

It is a condition similar to “men behaving badly” only it is called “men giving advise”. Unfortunately it affects men who play golf in greater numbers. This is bad news for their female loved ones who will find themselves the focus of male golfers who have an irresistible impulse to correct their mates. At this point you are all nodding like bobble head dolls because you know this guy, you probably live with him.

He is the one who is not a pro, but watches the Golf Channel, reads the magazines, and can quote from the latest and greatest golf books, yet can’t tell you when your birthday or anniversary is. This is the guy who claims he is crazy in love with you, but if you would just keep your head still when you swing, you (or is it he) would be much happier. He is the one who wants you to know you have a wonderful swing, if only you would turn your left hand over just a bit!

Ironically, John Gray in his popular book, Men Are From Mar’s, Women are From Venus, says that women should never give unsolicited advice to men as they interpret this as a critical, unloving and offensive act. Instinctively, women know not to do this, which is why you rarely if ever see this kind of communication from women at your local practice range or on the course with the men they are playing with.

Instead, you see “Martians” who cannot resist correcting, teaching, or fixing a woman’s golf swing. I find this kind of behavior a bit strange considering this is the very action that they themselves find so offensive.

I am not even going to try to figure the guys out, as I am a Venusian and I have my own problems. I can only say that for the sake of a healthy relationship, if your mate has “I can’t help giving advise-itis” and it is driving you crazy, it is important to talk about it. Communicate with the man of your life. Tell him that you love him dearly, but fixing your golf swing is a major no, no. “It is out of bounds.”

That is my advice, oops; I mean that is the “Venus View”!


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